Is Your Inner Critic Running on "Toxic Fuel"? Here are 5 Steps to Change the Tank.
- Feb 10
- 2 min read
We have a massive misconception in the professional world. We believe that the harsh voice in our head the one that pushes, critiques, and nags is the secret to our success.
We think it is the fuel that gets us to the top.
But here is the truth: It is toxic fuel.
Just like the difference between gas and electric, one is sustainable and the other isn't. Shame might get you to move for a moment, but it will eventually burn you out.
In this week's episode of The Unlock Lab, I break down the 5 steps to switch your fuel source.
Step 1: Build Awareness & Separate First, you must realize this voice is not you. It is just a part of you. I recommend journaling to externalize it or giving it a name (just don't name it after a family member, that gets messy).
Step 2: Detect the Lie The inner critic speaks in absolutes. It uses words like "always," "never," or "you should". If you cannot confirm the narrative with 100% certainty, it’s a lie.
Step 3: Bust the Myth. Stop believing that beating yourself up is required for growth. Self-compassion is actually a more effective, sustainable fuel for high performance.
Step 4: Interrupt the Pattern Thoughts snowball. One minute you’re worried about a project, the next you are convinced your whole life is crap. You have to physically interrupt this. Dance, shower, walk, or simply go to bed early like I did recently when I was triggered.
Step 5: Be Your Own Best Friend Treat the critic like a child who is trying to protect you from failure. You don't need to be ashamed of it. You just need to say, "I see you, I love you, now go on vacation".
Real Life Practice I used these exact steps last week when someone asked me if my podcast was "worth it" after 84 episodes. My critic tried to tell me I was wasting my time. Instead of spiraling, I used these tools to remember my truth: I play the long game, and I do this to serve you.
Ready to do the work? Listen to the full episode below.
