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Human skills are about more deeply understanding yourself, so that you can see how you are showing up in the world – not just for yourself but for others. While it may be hard to admit, the biggest deterrent to learning more about yourself and your patterns could be because you’re afraid to find out what you learn. This is something I completely understand.

We have a massive misconception in the professional world. We believe that the harsh voice in our head—the one that pushes, critiques, and nags—is the secret to our success. We think it is the fuel that gets us to the top. But here is the truth: It is toxic fuel. Just like the difference between gas and electric, one is sustainable and the other isn't. Shame might get you to move for a moment, but it will eventually burn you out. In this week's episode of The Unlock

Even as a seasoned speaker, a change in format can wake up the Inner Critic. In this post, I share the exact process I used to condense a 45-minute keynote into a hard-hitting 10-minute talk without losing my cool. Discover why public speaking is a test of Human Skills (internal regulation), not just "soft skills" (external polish), and learn my 3-step protocol to prepare, show up with grace, and celebrate being of service rather than obsessing over perfection. 🦉

Human skills are the ability to look deeply at yourself, recognize your patterns, and understand what needs to shift so you can reach your goals. For too long, the corporate world has prioritized technical expertise while treating our internal state as an afterthought.

In this episode, we challenge the conventional definition of trauma with Trauma Recovery Coach Stacey Uhrig. While many leaders dismiss their internal struggles because they lack a history of "catastrophic" events, Stacey reveals that trauma is not always explosive. Often, it is cumulative; a thousand "paper cuts" or the absence of feeling seen, heard, and safe. We examine how high achievement and being "driven" are frequently survival tactics used to cope with these unheale

Over the past few months I’ve been doing a lot of thinking (perhaps too much thinking) about what my work really is. Not just because of the whole ‘end of year’ reflection stuff, but also because I needed to think more deeply about the kind of impact I want to have on the world.

In the first-ever video episode of The UNLOCK Lab, Tosca DiMatteo challenges the societal pressure to launch into high-performance mode the moment January begins. Instead of forcing productivity while you feel depleted, this episode explores the importance of aligning with your natural cycles. Discover why it is perfectly acceptable to be at "low tide" right now and learn a four-step framework to start 2026 with authenticity.

As we come to the end of the year, are you hearing a harsh voice in your head saying, “You didn’t do enough,” “You’re behind,” or “Everyone else did better than you”? In episode 80 of The Unlock Lab, I continue my Inner Critic Series with one of the loudest and most painful voices many of us face: the success inner critic, the one that tells you that you're not successful. This episode is my invitation to step back, reclaim your own definition of success, and end the year wit

You get to take your time, your energy, and your power back and discernment is how you do it. When you keep giving from an empty cup and ignoring your own needs, you are abandoning yourself and that is not a pathway for expansion.

Have you ever found yourself waiting for an apology that never comes, hoping it will finally make things feel better? I know I have. In episode 78 of The Unlock Lab, I share a powerful reframe: You don’t need anyone else to participate in to begin healing your heart. This episode is for you if you’re carrying unresolved hurt, disappointment, or confusion about relationships with no closure or repair.