What it takes to get unstuck and out of your funk.
Happy September to you and cheers to new months, new beginnings and most importantly, getting unstuck.
Maybe it’s not unstuck, so much as you’re facing an obstacle you don’t know how to obliterate, or perhaps you aren’t feeling motivated. Whatever discomfort you might be feeling, I sure would love to help you find your way out of it!
I’m hoping that my podcast episode this week can support you in this! The reason why I think it might is because I come clean with the fact that I often won’t answer the first questions you ask around whatever your stuckness is. Not because I'm being difficult, but because I know there's a more important question underneath it, and that's the one that I want to help you with.
So for example if you asked me a question about how I built my business, I probably wouldn’t answer that right off the bat. What I would do is come back to you with some questions that I think might be more useful such as:
How do you want to build your business?
What have you tried so far that gave you the results you were excited about?
What (if anything) feels out of alignment with the way you've been going about it recently?
Asking more fruitful questions is absolutely game changing, but here’s the other part of dislodging what’s stuck; What's causing the stuckness is almost always an unmet need that you have. It’s probably one you're not conscious of, or one you don't want to admit you have.
I'm not immune to this either. Not long ago I hit a point in my business where I was ready for the answers. I figured I'd tried everything, so the answer had to come from somebody other than me, and so I invested in someone else pointing me in the right direction.
It took me a hot minute to realize that what I actually needed was to deepen my own self-trust and inner knowing, right when that was hardest to do. I slowed my own progress down by looking outside myself for something I already had right when I was at the precipice to believe I had everything I needed.
On this week's episode I walk through five scenarios I’ve seen time and time again, and I give you a sense about some of the deeper questions hiding underneath each one.
The job frustration isn’t really about the job. The confidence you want to work on…that's actually inner critic work. The quiet "is this all there is?" comes with a side of guilt that you didn’t order. The unexpected transition that you think is about destination, is actually about something even more important and the inquiry on the business tactics is actually about worthiness.
In this conversation, pay attention to what raises your eyebrows because that’s directing you to what needs attention.
P.S. One of those scenarios is entirely about the inner critic narrative running underneath your confidence. If you want to know which voice is running your show, take the Inner Critic Compass quiz: https://www.toscadimatteo.com/innercritic-compass
Share this with a friend who might need some support right now - and let them know you believe they can find their way to the other side of whatever feels heavy right now!
Cheers to what's next,
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