Finding Courage at the Edge of Your Comfort Zone
- Tosca DiMatteo
- 6 days ago
- 3 min read
We all hit moments when our inner critic tries to keep us staying right where we are, especially when we’re standing on the brink of something new, uncertain, or daring. In Episode 30 of The Unlock Lab, I unpacked how this “comfort zone” inner critic tries to keep us from taking that leap, which often ends up blocking our growth, and erodes our confidence.
It’s a voice I know well, and I see in my coaching clients all the time. Just when you’re about to take a leap, start a business, set a boundary or show up boldly, the critic pipes up with doubt, worry, and fear.
Why the Inner Critic Fears the Edge
Many of us have been deeply conditioned to seek safety, approval, or predictability. The critic that wants you to stay in your comfort zone will say:
* “You’re not ready yet.”
* “What if people judge you?”
* “You don't know what you're doing.”
* “What if it doesn't work out?”
For me, the discomfort shows up in different ways, sometimes as guilt when asserting myself, sometimes as anxiety about trying something new. The critic isn’t here to ruin our lives; it believes it’s protecting us from disappointment or rejection. But the truth is, we’re more capable than that voice leads us to believe.
Naming the Critic Is Step One
The most transformative moments come when I recognize the critic for what it is: an outdated safety mechanism. When I name it, I can reframe fear as a signal that I’m growing - not that I’m in danger.
I remind myself and my clients that discomfort is not a stop sign. It means you're breaking old patterns and moving closer to what you truly want.
What Will People Think?
I watched my niece wrestle with a choice about self-expression - which was most definitely at the edge of her comfort zone. She wanted to have her hair braided for the first time, but she worried what others might say. With support, she chose her joy over other people's opinions, and the happiness that followed her making that clear decision was palpable.
What To Do When The Critic Is Loud
* Pause to notice and name what’s happening.
* Remind yourself of past risks and how you overcame them.
* Reach out for support; let yourself be cheered on or challenged by people who believe in you
* Ask: “Is my discomfort here to keep me stuck, or is it pointing to growth?”
Why This Practice Changes Everything
Getting brave at the edge of your comfort zone isn’t just about big goals, it’s about honoring your truth, reclaiming your agency, and living with more self-respect and possibility. The critic will always be there, but your willingness to hear its voice without being ruled by it can become your superpower.
Feeling judged or fearing failure isn’t the end of the story, it’s the start of something real and meaningful. If you’re facing a big moment and the critic is loud, know that the real message to take away is this: you’re right on track.
Try This for Yourself
Next time you feel stuck, ask: “Is this the comfort zone critic speaking? What am I truly wanting on the other side?” Name your dreams. Declare your new chapter and let yourself ask for the support you need.
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Tune into Episode 30 of The Unlock Lab to hear more about navigating your inner critic and embracing bold growth. I’ll forever be cheering you on to meet your edge, honor your needs, and keep growing.
