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As a human skills expert, I help leaders understand their patterns of behavior so they can get on a new growth trajectory. Recently, I wrote a newsletter about generosity as a leadership trait, and it resonated so much that I knew it needed more airtime. In a world that often feels transactional and isolated, I believe generosity needs space.

At some point in our life, we  ask ourselves “Is this all there is?”. In 2018 I asked myself this very question that led me to take my career in a whole new direction. Asking this question and taking action on what you truly want are two entirely different things.  In my conversation with Mitch Patel, CEO of Vision Hospitality Group, we talked about what it takes to stop settling, and start building a life that thrills you.

I speak with experienced leaders on the regular. On paper, they have it all figured out. Behind closed doors, you hear the truth about the difficulty of holding everything all at once.  These highly capable leaders also In my conversation this week with Debra Driscoll, the founder of The BeHer Collective, we looked at the root cause of this exhaustion. It is not a lack of "soft skills" or time management. It’s the deeply ingrained belief that you must do life and lea

Let us get straight to the truth that most executivestry to ignore. You’re highly successful on paper, but exhausted because you believe you have to carry the weight of your world entirely on your own. In my conversation this week with Debra Driscoll, the founder of The BeHer Collective, we looked at the root cause of this exhaustion. It is not a lack of "soft skills" or time management. It’s the deeply ingrained belief that you must do life and leadership by yourself.

It’s incredibly common to feel afraid to step out of an individual contributor role. When you’ve spent years perfecting your craft, there’s comfort in knowing the rules of the road. That can create a clear preference to focus on your technical skills, and avoid developing your leadership abilities.

You are successful on paper. You have the title, the team, and the track record. Yet, if you are being completely honest, you feel like you’re holding on by a thread some days. When you’re exhausted, the generic advice is always the same: "work sm When I’m looking for my next big move—whether it’s for my business or my life—I want the burning bush. I want the sky to crack open, a lightning bolt to strike the ground, and a booming voice to say, "Tosca, this is exactly what y

I’ll be honest, I would love to find the easy button. When I’m looking for my next big move—whether it’s for my business or my life—I want the burning bush. I want the sky to crack open, a lightning bolt to strike the ground, and a booming voice to say, "Tosca, this is exactly what you need to do next."

Human skills are about more deeply understanding yourself, so that you can see how you are showing up in the world – not just for yourself but for others. While it may be hard to admit, the biggest deterrent to learning more about yourself and your patterns could be because you’re afraid to find out what you learn. This is something I completely understand.

We have a massive misconception in the professional world. We believe that the harsh voice in our head—the one that pushes, critiques, and nags—is the secret to our success. We think it is the fuel that gets us to the top. But here is the truth: It is toxic fuel. Just like the difference between gas and electric, one is sustainable and the other isn't. Shame might get you to move for a moment, but it will eventually burn you out. In this week's episode of The Unlock

Even as a seasoned speaker, a change in format can wake up the Inner Critic. In this post, I share the exact process I used to condense a 45-minute keynote into a hard-hitting 10-minute talk without losing my cool. Discover why public speaking is a test of Human Skills (internal regulation), not just "soft skills" (external polish), and learn my 3-step protocol to prepare, show up with grace, and celebrate being of service rather than obsessing over perfection. 🦉